Updated: Oct 28, 2019
You attract what you feel not what you want
Everyone now days is talking about how to attract your soulmate using the law of attraction. I’ll give you some tips but before I do that I’ll give you an example.
So let’s say that you feeling fed up about being attracted to the same type of situation for instance, you like someone, shows some interest but this is not long lasted as he withdraws his interest and you left hanging feeling lonely and unfulfilled and wondering what you did wrong, why did you get exactly the same outcome as before.
Soul searching starts, questions are being answered and you reach the conclusion that you have been attracted to someone who resembles your father’s behaviour and personality.
Then you take the decision that this time round everything would be different, you’ll choose the right person, so what you need is to create a list with all the characteristics your next loved would have. Sleeves up and off you go with the first list. I want him to be tall, clever, to love me, to be in love with me etc. You make another one for yourself on how you want to be feeling etc and then you wait. At some point this new person comes into your life and and long after you are start having all the feelings of loneliness and unfulfillment. Again you are wondering what went wrong and why you have attracted the wrong person again.
You don’t need to create any lists, you don’t need them. Tear up all your lists as you know deep inside you what works for you and what not. What you need to do is to find the essence of who you really are. You real self doesn’t care that much about appearances and money, it does care though about unconditional love, respect, freedom, independence and this is exactly what you need to come in touch with.
These are a few questions to ask yourself:
What do I believe and think about intimate relationships?How do I feel about being with someone so close so they can see the real me?What is the most important thing for me?What would it mean for me if I won’t be in any type of a romantic relationship again?What is the most traumatic experience I have had in my life?
Explore your deepest fears. These are hidden behind the things you say to describe love and romantic relationships. You need help with that as this is the core of you, your protection, the essence of who you THINK you are and it is not easy to let it go without help. It is easier for someone else to help you reframe past painful experiences.
Apart for your external help, personal work is required. You need to have at least two tools. One should be definitely used to release negative emotions like EFT and one for installing a positive new beliefs. EFT can be versatile as it can do both, release painful emotions as well as installing new positive mindsets. I normally use hypnosis for the latter. I create short hypnosis where I speak and affirm changes as they have already been done.
You may have different blocks about attracting the relationship you want. Let’s say you have ten different blocks holding you back. You don’t need to find all ten, you just need to find the most intense and stronger block. Once this is identified all others won’t have the same intensity, it would be easier for you to let them go later on.
Healing is not one time thing, it’s a process. You are not going to let go of who you think you are in one day and if you insist on believing that you have set yourself up for a huge disappointment and pain. The one minute miracles are being built up on years of disappointment, trial and error, loneliness and wonder.
Not all of us have had the same trauma in your lives and different things are working for different people. What you need to do is to find what is working for you specifically.
Change would happen to you, just wait and see!
Love and light,