How does it work
The basic component of EFT is the tapping on the Meridian points. These are on the side of hand, eyebrow, side of the eye, under the eye, under the nose, under the mouth, collarbone, under the arm and top of the head. There are many more points where we can tap in the body but the points above are the basic recipe.
EFT basic procedure
The description of the issue. Let's use the example of fear of flying.
Questions such as: When did you notice you have this problem, what was happening in your life when it started, where do you feel it in your body, how will you know that you release this problem?
The next thing we ask is how intense this fear is on a scale of one to 10 with 10 being very intense.
We start tapping on the first point which is on the side of the hand by stating and accepting we have this problem. It will sound like this: ''Even though I have this flight phobia, I deeply and completely love and approve of myself.''
We move on tapping on the next points and at the same time we repeat a phrase that describes the problem such, as ''this fear of flying''.
At the end of the tapping round, I will ask you whether the fear has gone down on a scale one to ten. We continue the tapping rounds until the fear is down to one.
The above is a very simple description of an EFT process but the reality is that working on an issue is not a very straightforward process. These sorts of issues are a facade of an underlying fear.
In the example above the fear of flying it's more likely to be connected to another situation in your life where you feel trapped and have no control. However, to arrive at the conclusion it takes sometimes time until the client is ready to see the full picture. Of course, the fear of flying could be connected to the actual fear of being in a plane especially if you have had a past traumatic flying experience.
It is very common that while you are tapping, you may get a memory or even the connection you are looking for between your fear and a past experience. People are experiencing what we call the ''a-ha'' moments when they are able to make these connections. They can even feel it in their body as a sense of release and lightness.
Working on your own can sometimes be very hard for the simple reason is that you have blind spots. It can be very hard to describe what the actual issue is because you may have what we call in psychology the ''secondary gains''. For example, letting go of the fear of flying will force you to fly and go somewhere you don't want to go. So unconsciously, you may be blocking the release of your fear by not using the right words while you are tapping.
The secret to using EFT successfully is to be very specific with your words to describe the problem. When you approach globally, you may not have any progress and you may think that EFT isn't working for you. Working with a professional will help you understand the connection and release the fear faster.
Working with me
My approach is slightly different as I always want my client to have a good understanding of their problem as why they have it and what is it's connected to. In my opinion, reducing the intensity of the problem is not enough. I sometimes use out of the box approaches especially when I judge that my client is ready to see the full picture.
Every session is tailored to my client's needs and wants. I can be quite versatile with my approach. If my client is open to spirituality, I may adopt a more spiritual approach or if my client is more scientific, I will give more science-based explanations.